When you’re getting down and dirty, sometimes you hit a few bumps along your road to an orgasm. Here are a few tips for having sexy, clean, and orgasmic gay sex!
1. Anal isn’t everything
When you think of gay sex, you probably immediately think of anal. But anal isn’t the end all, be all of gay courtship.
Sometimes you’ll meet someone who falls into the same sexual role as you do, sometimes the idea of all that preparation is just too much, and sometimes you’ll care more about having Mexican for dinner than getting laid.
And that’s fine. You don’t have to have anal to get off or to feel like you’re actually having sex. Exploring one another’s bodies (especially with your mouth) is just as important and just as sensual as anal.
2. Lube is your friend
However, when you do decide to have anal you better have a ton of lube on hand. You can never have too much lube on hand.
If you’ve ever had anal, you know that lube is your best friend. Some days, everything goes smoothly. Other days, however, you might feel a little too… tight. Going slow and lube will help everything fit nicely into place.
Don’t get frustrated with yourself, forcing things along will only make you hate yourself later when you can’t sit straight.
3. Use a condom!
Safe sex is the best sex. Especially if you meet a man on a random gay chat app.
It’s important to protect yourself, especially since – be honest – you’re having a ton of casual sex.
If you’re one of those boys who finds they can never relax during anal, using a condom might help because you might be able to relax a little more knowing that you’re protected. Always use a barrier!
4. Sexuality is a spectrum, not a binary
Top, vers, bottom. These are all words when it comes down to it.
You shouldn’t allow yourself to become defined by these terms, especially if you don’t feel like you belong in either of those boxes.
Understand that sexuality is fluid, understand that it’s okay to want to top one day and bottom the next, understand that you don’t have to stay inside a neatly labeled box.
5. On fats, fems, and Asians
While some people claim that they’re not into fats, fems, or Asians because it’s a “personal preference”, it’s starting to seem more and more like cloaked racism. If you’re with a guy or around friends who are anti-fat, anti-fem, anti-Asian call them on their bullshit.
Sexuality is fluid, so don’t start limiting your attraction with these kinds of terms either. It’s okay to be into white guys or tall guys or hairy guys, but it’s not okay to state that you’re disinterested in an entire race of people.
6. Open relationships can actually work
Open relationships are huge in the gay community. However, some people question if they can really work. And yes, they can! If you do them right and with your partner’s consent. Poly is hard, so make sure that your relationship is ready for it!
7. Trim your nails!!!!
Men, you have some serious trouble with this. Before you put your fingers in any holes, trim your nails!
The last thing you want to do is scratch inside someone and cause an infection